Every relationship that culminates in either a win-lose or lose-lose situation is nothing but a negative relationship. Striking up a relationship or friendship shouldn't make you better off at the expense of the other. In addition, a relationship that put both parties at the receiving end of loss of reputation, dignity and peace is nothing but an unprofitable relationship. What then is a positive relationship? Any relationship that culminates in a win-win situation. John Maxwell observed, "Positive relationship are always overall win-win". Some people have entered into relationships that made them fall prey to perpetual emotional trauma. Have you gauged the quality of your friendship, relationship or affinity with the other party? If you are in a negative relationship and there is no prospect of working out a transition to a positive relationship, it wouldn't be ill-advised to pull out of it.

A positive relationship isn't a gain and drain relationship; neither is it a drain-drain affair. Relationship built across diverse landscapes such as academy, workplace, business, ministry, marriage and social platforms becomes positive if they stop short of keeping you constantly drained. Those who find themselves in negative relationships have reasons to whine and crap about their associates, friends or partners. From a marital perspective, before you sign on the dotted line, it is advisable to take account of the telltale signs that could drain you emotionally all through your marital journey. Knowing that God forbids divorce, relationship such as marriage should be consummated on God's direction and purpose for your life.

A relationship is also deemed positive if it stops short of staining your reputation. A godly and diligent student runs the risk of besmirching his reputation if he associates with those who are bent on examination malpractices. On top of this, he would be crossing the red line if he offers to impersonate for his unscrupulous and lazy friends. Are you in a friendship or relationship that is capable of hurling your reputation in the mud? Disentangling yourself from such relationship wouldn't put your reputation on the line nor hurt the bright future you desire.

It also bears mentioning that a positive relationship is such one that helps you to build your faith in God. Any relationship or friendship that resets your mind towards worldliness and hunger for lustful pleasure is damning and destructive. It is capable of ruining God's plan for your life. Hence, don't be enticed by the momentary pleasure of sin at the expense of the glorious future the Lord has for you. Samson got himself caught up on the lap of Delila and suffered a major setback and disruption of God's agenda for his life. Bear in mind that those who are companions of unrighteousness are invoking the wrath of God upon their lives. Hence, keep at arm's length those who are bent on making you to lose your royalty and dignity as a son or daughter of the Most High. If they wouldn't spawn you towards the pursuit of God, they aren't candidates for positive or godly relationship.

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Abayomi Aina
Abayomi (ACA, CFE, PGDip Theology) is an inspired prolific writer, instructor and gospel artiste. He is divinely endowed to inspire the world towards purposeful living, leadership spirit, goal pursuit, academic excellence and leading a Christian life.


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